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This Love Note is written to a young woman, Katharine Cowan, whom I’ve shared the stage with in The Nutcracker, Cinderella, Peter Pan, and now the ballet Giselle. Today’s performances are the final times I get to play her mother on stage. Each year I write a letter, and this is my last to her.

 

My dearest Giselle,

Here you are. You are here, on the cusp of change.

In the ballet you begin as a young village girl, and you die a young woman with a broken heart. In your life you are near the end of high school, and about to move far away to begin your next adventure.

Which means this is my final letter to you.

There is so much to say about this ballet. To look at the power of each emotion–Joy. Love. Deception. Death. Redemption.

But in this last letter, I want to write about the push and the pause.

Near the end of act I, you push me. Shove, really. Really hard. And that’s your job in life right now, too. It is a teenager’s work to push against what is familiar. Trusted. Safe.

And it’s okay to push away. It’s more than that—it is important and necessary.

We have to push away to create the space to go. We have to push against in order to create the space to grow.

 

The second part of the ballet that matters isn’t in the ballet at all.

Intermission.

The. Big. Pause.

The time between acts I and II when the audience isn’t necessarily sure what comes next. They may have a sense of the storyline, but the details won’t be known until the curtain rises. And the same is true for you. With graduation right around the corner, you are fast approaching your intermission. A few weeks of space before the curtain goes up at the Joffery.

Often we get impatient for intermission to be over. We want to rush it, or skip it altogether. But intermission is about breathing. About being still. Quietly gathering our energy so we have the strength to leap into what’s next.

The push and the pause. Take them with you. Each is vital to a career beautifully danced, and to a life well lived.

All my love, now and always.

Mama Berthe

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Monday April 17th, 6:30-8:00 pm

Night #3 of our 2016-2017 Parenting Series at Griffin! This evening’s talk will focus on student success and the surprising research that shows us the best ways to help children.

There will be time for Q & A afterwards about discipline and any other parenting topics!

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MARCH 11th

At the Expanding Your Horizons STEM conference for middle school girls on the SPSCC campus, I’ll be speaking about Brains, Bodies & Behavior: how to help our daughters grow during middle school. As a total science geek, I’m thrilled to be a part of this day!

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Saturday February 25th, 9 am-2 pm

The fifth annual Junior League of Olympia Community Summit on Resilient Children, Resilient Communities is a FREE one-day workshop for parents, educators, community members and anyone interested in the future of our children and community.

The event will be held from 9 a.m.-2 p.m. on Feb. 25, 2017, at the South Sound Community College- Lacey Event Center.

I will be the keynote speaker–the title of the address is “All of Parenting Happens on the In-Breath”.

For more information and to register for this fun, free day, click here.

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Monday February 6th, 6:30-8:00 pm

Night #2 of our 2016-2017 Parenting Series at Griffin! This evening’s talk will focus on discipline. Not only what to do in the heat of the moment, but how to prevent those moments from happening. There will be time for Q & A afterwards about discipline and any other parenting topics!

 

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January 27th, 2017

Q & A and fabulous food! This small group event is open to everyone. There are 13 spots available for a two and a half hour talk. It is all Q &A about all things parenting. Sleep! Siblings! Discipline! Media! Toilet! Whatever is on your mind, we’ll talk about it. We’ll be meeting at Casa Mia of Olympia from 7 – 9:30 p.m. Tickets for this event ($15) must be purchased in advance. Here’s the link for tickets! And here’s the facebook page for the event with all the details. Come join us!

 

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Tuesday January 24th, 9:30-11:15 am

I’ll be at Calvary Community Church in Sumner, WA, to talk to the JAM (Just Among Moms) group about sleep! We’ll be covering kiddos ages toddlers to elementary schoolers, with some info for any newborns, too.

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Thursday January 19th, 6-7:30 pm

Please join us for our annual workshop on raising kids in the digital age. Use the link to RSVP at Eventbrite, We’ll be sharing the latest research on kids and technology, and helping you establish/revisit/revise your family guidelines to help set your kids up for success. Relevant for all ages. BRING YOUR TWEEN (8-12) or TEEN (13-18) WITH YOU! This is a FREE event and open all in the South Sound region.

Free childcare for very young children will be provided on site. Event is at Charles Wright Academy in the Lower School Commons. It’s the first parking lot/building you see when you get to campus!

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